Help whenever you can, and be sure to expect nothing in return

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Its been two months since my Dad passed away today, and I find myself remembering things he'd mentioned to me in passing a lot these days.

This one, in particular, came to my mind today.

  • Help others, especially if they ask you for help, whenever you can. Its easy and you'll feel good that you did.
  • However, almost as importantly, never, ever expect anything in return - even thanks, certainly not praise or a returned favor. You'll very likely be disappointed and less likely to help the next time around.
Its good advice, and over the years has definitely made my life better - especially the second part. :-)
So, if someone asks you for help, do it and enjoy the feeling it gives you. Just as importantly, discipline yourself to expect absolutely nothing in return.

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